lover constantly complains that you nag them, try and find ways to fix this Nothing wrong with that. The problems with childbirth grow exponentially by year Men getting around has pretty much been accepted as it is. You think we want you all used up. The fact that there is a message board Im not bitter, Im BETTER andin retrospect, I can say this: as a man, it is impossible for me to love a woman more than I trust her. And dont assume that the men who play arent still looking for a relationship but last time I checked, the feel of a women is a helluva lot different than a hand job at midnight and will therefore satisfy that itch while they find the one. If she's interested, there's clearly no problems from her end. so i assumed that he is not a virgin. Marriage is a serious commitment intended to last a lifetime. Love isnt about the pussy or how big the dick is. First I would like to say that any woman who feel that there is a double standard with this topic, generally has a high count of partners. The only problem with yr case is you did what you did. Rest are the best women who should be given salute and Respect in the society and Life and they had earned the title to be called Wife and not a Slut (as Whore does sex for MONEY not Satisfaction or ENJOYMENT). My number is 25. 1. bro be quiet how would you feel if your wife bumped into a ex and got all happy over it? Again, you say the past shouldnt matter. have the ability to make the best choices for herselfimpulse control Dont get mad if needs/wants change. In the overwhelming majority of cases, a promiscuous sex life is indicative of other personality problems. Women, on the other hand, are the gatekeeper to their bodies, because of the risk in any sexual encounter. *if you admit to regrets* which is the biggest of your life. Life is all about letting go. Now despite some of the accurate statements you made, the point is that women or people for that matter are not always the same person they once were. And she is the perfect wife! 0. So there is a responsibility on both ends. What I am saying is I dont feel it is best to allow that to overshadow everything else that is great about this woman and the fact that you believe she is best from you (aside from a possible past you arent too happy about). We have been together for almost a year now. Yoomy situation is differentthis girl actually wants me to wants on her till shes done having fun (sleeping around) too settle down with me..i thing thats disgustingand its not worth it. A person exposing the number of past partners has nothing to do with the present moments situation.. First of all, we human beings need to start doing fuller and more honest self examinations before we point at others. Here is what I can get from you: Just broke up few months ago from an LTR and first girl you were intimate with (? issue out, then you should get out. It doesnt really save more hearts and feelings, it just postpones the pain. I dont think number should be the issue but how they went about the promiscuity if they were having sex in back alleys and getting double teamed etc how could someone want to be with them if they just had alot of partners its a little easier to swallow. She can probably just walk up to a man and say Wanna fuck me? and the first man she approaches will say yes (or at least one in the first three men). There are women who have been with very few men and still experience the same issues. I think you are not getting the point of this article. You can talk a good talk a good talk about how the The Almighty GOD being nothing but a storybook fable all you want. So to simply go off of the number is in my opinion a misguided approach to understanding the person you are dealing with. the point is about understanding that who someone once was isnt always who they are now. I confronted her about it and she responded the number was 5. I have just as much right to sleep with however many men I chose, even if its none. I could go on forever but Ill stop here. Let her know your goal is to simply be better, and to have peace within yourself about this issue. However, a girl can easily disqualify herself from consideration if her number reveals her to have lived life as a raging slut. N get money. But one thing is for sure, I definitely wont each my daughter to be like me! Intriguing debate between you & Altamera74, and as you state it is his opinion that he is entitled to. The issue is beyond Disease Free, its the type of risk either party has been willing to takerather then except weather they can be Honest. behavior about those numbers. Not sure if she is clued into how I've only had one sexual partner as again I am terrified to bring up this conversation about each of our amount of sexual partners. You cant turn a ho in to a housewife. If you cannot trust a woman then you cannot love her. Big problem with your logic: when we are choosing a mate to be with, we inherently judge whether that person is the best for us to be with. It makes it an issue when she has slept with 50 plus guys and the male only a handful. Btw, there is only one true ALPHA in this entire universe. If woman has had >20 partners, odds of remaining in marriage for 5+ years are measly 20%. In this day and age, very few women or men will be virgins when you marry them. Personally, I dont want to marry a woman who looks at sex like a man does, and acts the way a man does. The idea that a large percentage of dudes do want to settle down or have only LTR's shouldn't be news to anyone. However, the more partners a woman has had, the more likely her marriage is to fail. My wife of 25 years has been with several partners and had sex including loosing her virginity. I dont even make eye contact with other men. HOWEVER, if the candidate was honest about their past and they were suitable, they stand as good a chance as any. So if a man has slept with a hundred then he should be deemed the same way that a woman is if she sleeps with that many. As I've tried to read about the concept of dating a slut I have been unable to find any success stories about someone who has dated a slut long term but I have found a lot of mostly red pill stuff that has said it is a bad idea. Remember that 50 years ago it was men who mostly had the affairs and was generally accepted that wives take it because boys will be boys. would you not prefer to be judged on who you are as a man today, or should any perceived mistakes you made in the past always be held over your head? Thinking about it more actually I should just avoid these jokes as it could be an avenue for the toxicity to leak out. And no one will understand fully if they didnt make a similar choice. B) Twenty sex partners, had sex a total of 100 times. Would you rather have a car with ONE OWNER, who took care of it. I loved this article. Excellent. For some reason, people think that its only THEM that are having sex and anyone else who does is disgusting. Redpill and PUA groups can't do that because their inherent premise is that women are lesser and that abusive action is acceptable toward them. I will definitely address it and I hope you let me know what you think when that time comes : ). Now the real problem is that not only are these type of women promiscuous, they lie about that number. What if I through a monkey wrench to your logic by saying that this said slut you speak of was forced into prostitution when she was young, and therefore slept with a lot of men? Is this maths answer correct for probability? Not just with them, but with you. Really? while, recklessly, and if I crash? and dont forget life is a stinky bitch, you call your friend in your house and he happened to be one of your wifes exes. It is simply saying that the actual number is not what is truly important. Additionally, male and female sexuality is just different. As long as you can be faithful to the person youre with, whatz the problem?? hide ourselves in does not preclude that: it is a make or break answer. You havent listed any statistics relevant to the discussion. Do not lie, but do not get detailed. In The Bible also JESUS is calling people to LOVE, because LOVE hides our unperfections and we can still have a great relationship without being like every Tom Dick and Harry, but like JESUS. I would just say that the specific number wasnt the real issue in your case. Live up those spring break days if you must, but Lol promiscuous men have a degenerate mentality. No MAN of Real Men is going to stomach that the woman he plans to be with for the rest of his life has went down on XXX number of men (with her stretched mouth and swollen mouth/lips from all that sucking) and beat up, dried out, damaged vagina from all the banging: Hes a fool if he makes no judgment and a trick at best!!! would want a man who thinks this way, otherwise, she is going to just end with I do wish, however, that more men could see that this issue is not so black and white. Im not emotionally detached, I was able to attach to my man and love only him and I am never bored. The former is a wife prospect. He sais it in a pretty comical way too! What ever happened to the days when articles encouraged people to better themselves. Wow! If a woman comes to you and displays all the attributes you look for in a woman. that doesnt mean that they should deny themselves regular sex of a relationship and it doesnt make them sl*ts or *ssh*les but at least there confident and enjoy themselves. I think that sex is not the big factor of life, as a matter of fact I know sex is not the big factor of life. That doesnt define who you will be. Your situation is exactly what I want people to understand. Women have the choice to say, yup im gonna let this guy inside me. I never disclosed about my past, however due to his inquisitive nature and the way he made me feel safe, I opened up to him and told him the truth. The image of women as conservative and prudish has been in place since patriarchal days and were created by the fathers and prospective mates. The people that hurt you had there own issues that they never resolved, so their actions were not a reflection on you or your worth as a person. To people who have had sex with too many people: It is Youre doing the right thing, love beats all just think how you would feel looking back at now when youre on your death bed about to pass onto the other realm. choosing to be selective in whom they sleep with. I never liked hooking up; I just wanted a long-term bf and thought "hooking up" was the way the cool kids did it. This woman typically has no boyfriend (or a boyfriend who doesn't care that she fucks other men) and simply goes out looking to get laid. She might have sexual preferences or desires that she has been too afraid to bring up in conversation. I never said I wanted to date you or anyone like you, so your comment, No one is saying you have to date us, is a bit of a non-sequitor. The fact of the matter is what one decides to do with their body is their decision and they should not be judged by imperfect perfect people based on that decision. You feel it might reflect on her character and increase her chances of cheating on you? Most of these women are 21-27 years old. Thank you for sharing that Justina I really appreciate your willingness to do that. Its an individual thing as to how they perceive themselves. 1. I vehemently disagree with this! My parents were the hippy free-spirit types who told me that I should enjoy and experience life and do what makes me happy. Who are they sleeping with? With whom and how often a woman choose to share herself, and her body, speaks to her values and character. The commandment was and is for both genders of mankind. Deal with them. But everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I Dont see it as passing judgement. In the last few years I have hurt her with my venting and myself deeply as well with the thought of it. Men should be held to the same standard as women when it comes down to numbers of sexual partners and until society enforces that men will continue to mess around because its ok for men because their held to a lower standard than women. We were in high school and remained faithful to eachother all throughout college. This post hit the nail on the head!!!!!!! It is amazing to see how in other Some guys are really looking for that one who has waited. Its my sincere opinion that if we lived in a more egalitarian society the issues surrounding promiscuity wouldnt be such an issue and people wouldnt be so quick to judge one another. Dude, this toxic line of thinking is going to make you so miserable. Everyone has a right to their opinion and position. It started to become so frustrating that men would love everything about me but judge me sexually. She came clean with me (after wewere together)during a deep conversation. And guess what? The worst part of this is having to act like I don't care about any of this stuff to her as that quite honestly could only hurt what we are trying to build if I show that I am insecure about this. Im also comfortable with myself and my happiness is not determined by whether or not I have a partner. 2. panophobic. Keep in mind, you have no money in your 20s. It means women can never have freedoms to make decisions at all. 3 Risk Factors For Women Who Sleep Around Having Unattached Sex To be patient with you and I am sorry to hear that you experienced such things, but keep moving in the right direction as you are. A womans body is different. No one should be lied to in a relationship. I do not think it is worth walking away from a woman you genuinely connect with, but again that is my opinion. Who she once was is not always who she is now. My girlfriend who I am seeing right now has had sex with about 65 people GOD absolutely knows more than I can ever imagine or begin to comprehend, but I think you are not properly receiving the message of this article. Thanks for sharing your view point, and thanks for scratching below the surface. You make a great case for why women should not be promiscuous, but what the article is trying to convey is that their past should not be held over their head forever. If you are a woman and you want to get married, you need to be smart about your dating. so should that man walk away from her now just based off of him finding out a specific number despite the fact that how she is today makes him a happy man. No, it should matter. Its not just your vagina you need to worry about think about your health. I just dont think that is ever worth passing on a woman that may be the right woman for that man. Beauty fades, parts get old. I really do agree that the double standard about sex partners is ridiculous. Men spread seed and women try to attract the best seed they can find. I believe society is obsessed with sex, seriously God created between one man and one woman Ive never had a one night stand and couldnt imagine letting a woman that I JUST met put her mouth on my penis or me eating her vagina I feel like promiscuity is just a reason to be reckless/refuse self discipline.. I have a BUNCH to say, but first lets address the wear and tear issue, it obviously has some relevance physically, but I would say it is mostly mentally destructive. To you over 30 might be danger, to the next more than 7 might be too much. She is 30. Never trust someone who doesnt change within those 10 years. She is the exact opposite of what my current girlfriend is. I agree with you. Most people have past sexual histories, but hiding them from someone that you are supposed to love and trust is setting oneself up for failure in the future. So its not a double standard at all. Me personally i do not sleep around and i am not going to lower my standards and try and act like a womans past has no bearing on her present let alone is not relevant. Eh. You should go ahead and try to remove the word "slut" from your vocabulary. It is the best indicator of who someone actually isyou knowhow theyve actually led their life. A mess you gonna have these women out here single and lonely.. Lol hold up, I didnt write Why I go through his phone that was a guest blogger (OnlyOneHeaven.com) but I did write this article. I told her not to be judgmental. experience with this subject: I have been single for about a year twice in my That is precisely why He came to to do what we couldn't do for ourselves. Fortunately for me he had an affair Women behave as sluts for many reasons. Thank you, Lord, for writing my name in Your Lambs Book of Life and sealing me with Your Holy Spirit! Thats what alpha men do in the truest sense the word. and if she was a hoe before marriage who tells me that she will magically transform after it? Or not. I sometimes dream about it, feel sad etc. Even an insects decides by way of judgment if it is to sting or bite youwhat world is being created here by thinking otherwise. Not really. Yeahman, if I were you I'd just take this whole things easy and use the time to work on myself. I am married to a wonderful woman with two kids. a person who's had a lot of relationships or encounters doesn't make them a cheater especially if they were honest and up front. If I find out that a woman I am dating has been a slut (based on my own personal definition since that is all that matter when Im choosing who to be in a relationship with), that disqualifies her from being in a serious relationship with me. Just know your not alone. Lastly, a man will respect you if he respects himself and others, especially women. And since passing on your genes is the most important thing, he is attracted to women most able to get pregnant. And, if many guys were blatantly honest with themselves and others, they would probably admit to being more promiscuous than their significant others. Means mentally you are stronger. others have been hurt that bad or that many times by c*nts (male or female) that they just stay single. I would rather be morally responsible than put another person through the consequences of my decisions. 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